I needed to know if we’d been living a lie all this time. I needed hard data, and digital algorithms were the only definitive way to find out.
And, apparently, someone thought it would be funny to do the same to me.A friend who recently started using OKCupid just forwarded me an email she got from the site, containing a funny message from a prospective suitor: "You seem nice. " I clicked on the message, curious to see if the sender was a sexy foreigner for whom English was a second language. Just because I had clicked on an email sent to her, OKCupid thought I was her.Suddenly, I was in my friend's account, staring at all her read and unread messages. OKCupid frequently emails its users new matches, prompts them to update their accounts, and sends them other links to the site.We've written a few times now about the leak of data from Ashley Madison, the "dating site for people who want to cheat on their spouses," mostly discussing the company's bizarre infatuation with abusing copyright law to try to take down anyone posting content from the leak.We haven't taken part in any of the stories about naming and shaming individuals who have been found in the database (or just where they might work).